The Relationship Bank of Choices

Each time your child makes a good choice, be sure to give praise.  “Hey Nancy, I really appreciate you not arguing with me earlier; good choice.”  “John, I really thank you for cleaning your room; good choice.”  Every time you say “good choice,” you are making good choice deposits into that child’s Relationship Bank of Choices checking account. 

We as parents need those good choices deposited into each child’s relationship account.  There need to be enough good choice funds to cover a poor choice check.  A parent does not want to bounce a poor choice check.  Have you ever bounced a check?

NSF is not a good thing to experience.   It is not a good feeling.  It makes us hesitate every time we write a check.  We start to fear whether or not we have enough funds to cover that check, and there is always a penalty attached to a bounced check, which ends up costing you more.  In the Relationship Bank of Choices, every good choice deposit is worth $1.00.  Every poor choice check costs $8.00.  This is an 8 to 1 ratio.  This means that for each poor choice check you write, you must have deposited 8 good choices.  At times, children will bounce or react negatively because they did not have enough good choices deposited into their account when we had to write a poor choice check.

Tags: good choices, praise, relationship

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